Sharing your life with someone else can be an incredibly rewarding life-long experience. Marriage as a social institution is oftentimes wonderful and rewarding, but it is not easy. As marriages progress, people change from who they were when they got married. Communication can grow difficult and problems can arise. You might notice some problems in your marriage that you and your partner don’t quite know how to address or resolve. You might be wondering if you should go to marriage or couples counseling. These are the most common reasons couples seek therapy.
The Couple Feels Like Roommates.
This is very common. After a while in a marriage, the passion for romance and excitement seems to slow down. Many feel that the excitement has died. This is usually not true. You just might need a skilled professional to moderate your communication and show you how to reconnect.
You Acknowledge the Problem but Can’t Fix it.
If you were to notice a leak in your faucet, you might know the leak is the problem but not how to fix it. There is no shame in calling a mechanic or a plumber or a doctor when you face a problem you don’t have the skills to resolve. A marriage counselor is much the same way. Just because you know that something is a problem doesn’t mean you know the solution.
Infidelity
Adultery is the most common reason couples seek a psychotherapist in New York City and other major metropolitan areas. While your initial reaction to adultery might be to immediately divorce the cheating party, a psychotherapist can help you work through your feelings to find the best course forward.
One or Both Parties Consider Adultery
When you or your partner is considering committing adultery, something has probably gone awry in your relationship. The feeling of wanting to seek intimacy with someone else usually indicates a desire for something missing your own relationship. A therapist can help you work through those feelings.
Communication Has Fallen Apart
What classifies as communication “falling apart” is something that might be hard to determine. However, if you feel that you and your partner communicated more efficiently in the past, you might need to see a psychotherapist to resolve your differences and reopen the lines of communication.
Perhaps, you and your partner haven’t stopped communicating, but it has grown negative or unproductive. This means that you and your partner are speaking negatively to each other or you talk and talk but nothing changes. Though this is technically communication, it might be just as unhealthy as a lack of speaking.
Before You Separate
You might consider a counselor if you feel that your problems have grown beyond your control, and you think the only solution is to separate.
